Dating someone else while in a relationship
We’ve always been a little flirty in a joking way, but we’ve never been single at the same time.
Caleb just broke up with his girlfriend and has been turning to me for a shoulder to cry on.
Your mind can create all kinds of exotic (and erotic!
) daydreams about how the two of you could finally be together. Instead, try picturing the realistic aftermath of what might actually happen if you cheated on Trevor, or dumped Trevor to be with Caleb.
Imagine you and Caleb getting in your first big fight … Of course you can never know exactly what the future holds, but trying to inject some realism into your fantasies can go a long way towards helping you make a more thoughtful decision.
Nineteen is pretty young to start a serious relationship, especially one that you could see eventually ending in marriage.
You might not want to be thinking about your crush while you're kissing your boyfriend, but you can try redirecting your desire towards your boyfriend.
You might notice a surge in your libido, an extra little hip swivel in your walk, or even a sense of power. It sounds like you haven’t taken any action on your attraction to Caleb, but you’re finding it increasingly difficult to exhibit self-control.
That might include not seeing him in person (or only seeing him when other people are around too) or not talking to him over the phone or text for a while.You might be making the situation worse by beating yourself up unnecessarily.Having a crush on someone can fire up some serious sexual energy!I’ve been finding myself feeling very attracted to him, which makes me feel terrible.But I can’t help but picture what it would be like to be with him. We don’t really have any control over our hearts, but having feelings for someone who is not your significant other usually feels terrible. Here are seven questions to help you figure out your next step.