How to approach dating a coworker
Still, 66 percent of participants in another poll said that once they're involved, they don't worry about secrecy. "Simply showing up together for drinks after work should transmit information without a lot of unnecessary drama," says Stephanie Losee, coauthor, with Helaine Olen, of Office Mate. But talking shop during that getting-to-know-ya time will lead nowhere fast.Manage it: "Give yourselves a 10-minute time limit for work chatter, and move on," says Leil Lowndes, author of Nobody wants a heart-to-heart in the corner office, but the boss will hear the news eventually. Manage it: "Use the meet-the-parents test," says Daniel Pink, author of .Nick,* 29, was surprised but pleased to be hired by his girlfriend's digital-media company, where several other couples worked together.
No, Really: Avoid the Boss According to HR consultant Laurie Ruettimann, most written policies prohibit employees from dating only a direct boss or subordinate. Experts spoke with discourage manager-subordinate romances because they create the perception (or reality) of favoritism; in a worst-case scenario, both parties could be fired or dragged through a harassment lawsuit.
Eventually Matt asked Sarah on a date, and they talked for so long that the sushi restaurant had to kick them out.
"We took things slowly because we were both very aware that we worked in the same office," she remembers.
If you're a snot about your breakup, coworkers could (and honestly, should) take your ex's side.
Manage it: "Save arguments for after 5 p.m., away from the office.