A lot of countries are Islamic countries and they highly believe in Allah and the promise of paradise if they would all live according to the teachings of Allah and the prophet Muhammad ...
In other religions, it is not allowed to have more than one wife or more that one husband because they would have to practice monogamy which is to be with only one person all their lives.
The problem I have with these more traditional approaches is that they do not necessarily reflect our reality.
In other words, they are rigid and do not accommodate all circumstances.
To illustrate, here is a woman on Craigslist looking for someone who won’t jump her bones on a first date, or call her fifty times in the span of a day: “If you are Muslim and a kind person who won’t jump on me and try to kiss me the first time we meet, then maybe you’re the one.
Or if you don’t smoke or drink (even though you say you are Muslim) and respect a woman’s desire to get to know you slowly, you could be the one.
God, in the Qur’an, doesn’t forbid hanging out with other people. God does, however, tell us not to approach illicit intercourse.
And more importantly, God reminds us to stay conscious.
It is a great way to observe any red flags that may come up. The only thing God says about this pre-marital dating business is ‘don’t approach sex.’ Everything else is open to your own gut feeling. That is why communication is so vital, because different people have different boundaries, preferences, and approaches.To supplement conversations, I believe it is important to see your partner in a variety of contexts and social situations. It is also an opportunity to discuss your approaches to islam, and your consistency within that realm as well.How does your partner treat wait-staff at restaurants? This is one reason why Muslim Marriage Guides all fail miserably. “A State Between Two States,” in Khaled Abou El Fadl’s, The Search for Beauty in Islam: A Conference of the Books Don’t have the economic means to get those books?You’ll slowly find yourself rubbing off on that person, and they will begin to rub off on you. Equally important is self-awareness so you can communicate your ideas to your partner. For instance, if your partner suddenly becomes a radically different person when surrounded by a particular group of people, that may be cause for concern.The skills of self-awareness and good communication don’t just get picked up overnight though. I see an opportunity to test out your communication skills!