Online dating and first phone call
“You won’t always find chemistry on the first date. It might not be until the 5th date that you feel that spark. If you’re enjoying their company and having a good time when you’re together, why not give it more of a chance than just the first date,” Rahbar says. While not meant to be an insult in most cases, hearing that your standards are too high is a tough thing to not take personally.
Raise your hand if you’ve felt personally victimized by this statement. Even though you probably just grin and bare it, you can feel reassured that it’s actually bad advice – kind of.
You should try online dating, but don’t rely on it completely.
But be careful, you could be taking it to the extreme and making something out of nothing, missing what’s right in front of you.
Sometimes you get in your own way when you overthink things and you can come across as indecisive, insecure, not confident, and it can begin to take a toll on your self-esteem.
Online dating can produce a relationship, but if you’re only swiping in an app that’s intent is based around casual encounters, you’re likely going to be feel disappointed. This is bad because playing games don’t work in good relationships.
“There are many sites, and they are pretty clear what their purpose is. If you want to have fun, there is nothing wrong with that, but if you are looking for something serious and long term, don’t set yourself up for hurt and failure,” she explains. You are likely to turn someone off rather than seem mysterious and alluring.