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“I still envisioned my sexual experience eventually reaching a terminus, like a monorail gliding to a stop at Epcot Center,” she writes in “Future Sex,” her first book, to be published this week.
“I would disembark, find myself face-to-face with another human being, and there we would remain in our permanent station in life: the future.” With “the West Coast and journalism as alibis,” Witt instead found herself exploring — tentatively, at first — different sexual options.
It points out the grappling you have in the book around language.
What role do you think language and vocabulary play in today’s dating culture? You know, at the end of the day, there’s actually nothing new about any sexual practice. [Laughs.] But it’s really the stories we tell about it, the language we use that differentiates our feelings about it.
There’s a lot of new words now — there’s polyamory, there’s hooking up.
You know, hooking up is something everyone’s parents did also, it just wasn’t called that. All of a sudden, the culture became concerned with this idea of sex that was detached from a narrative of romance and what that meant.
Accept and forgive the negative experiences that you might have pursuing adventure or something different.
The conversation has been edited for length and clarity. A: I always just assumed my life would be like my parents’ life.They met in their mid-20s and got married and had a family.I thought maybe the timeline would be more delayed for me — I would be in my late 20s or early 30s — but still the same thing would happen. I was almost lying to myself: I thought of it as just a journalistic project, that I would write a book I wasn’t in.I thought of myself as a kind of enlightened, not sexually repressed person.Q: If someone wanted to undertake a similar exploration, do you have any tips for that tour? If you don’t like something, don’t feel like you have to like it. But also when you have bad experiences, forgive yourself for having them and not blame experimentation.