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Depending on how long you were in a committed partnership, it may be years since you were last single.
You are now older, have a lot more responsibilities than you did in your early 20s, and may have children.
The most important thing is getting started, and here are my top five tips to help you date successfully.
First and foremost, I can’t say enough about the importance of maintaining (or developing) a positive “dating mindset.” This can be challenging for many women since the divorce process can be extremely difficult, often dragging on, taking a toll on every area of life – emotionally, financially, and physically.
As a result, I often I hear divorced women say things such as, “I hate dating,” and “there are no good men left.” This view point will negatively impact, if not sabotage, any effort to find new love. If you’re feeling stuck in negative emotions such as anger and resentment, my suggestion is that you first commit to the on-going work of developing a more positive and open mindset, what world-renowned Stanford University psychologist and author Carol Dweck describes as a “growth mindset.” Simply put, a growth mindset is the willingness to embrace our challenges as opportunities for change and growth.I share this now with a light heart, because five years after my separation, I have “acclimatized” and have since happily dated middle-aged men, many of whom are divorced and have children.In other words, my dating pool didn’t change, I did.And so, should you find yourself dating after divorce, it is important that you be patient with yourself.Depending on the nature of your divorce, and how much time has gone by, you may be more or less open to actively looking for love.